It’s been a while hasn’t it?
Hi everybody! First off, I’d like to apologize for the lack of posts since January. School’s been so demanding lately and I haven’t had time to update the blog regularly. However, I have been drafting posts in my notebook for quite some time, and I feel like I should share one of the things I’ve been dying to post.
I told myself that in 2016, I’d start to let go. Let go of all the things that were holding me down and making me unhappy and uncomfortable in my life. I will not say that 2016 has been easy for me, though. I’ve experienced way too much over 2 months. I will say, however, that I learned a lot over 2015 and the first few weeks of 2016, and I’ll be sharing those below (with a few illustrations by me!).
1. Let go of your comfort zone.
The truest form of beauty in life, the richness and experience, is to be found in the areas that are unfamiliar to us. Life opens up so many awe – inspiring ways when we allow ourselves to face our own fears, and trade in our everyday familiarities for things that may breed a lifestyle we have always yearned. If you seek a change or a sense of growth, it is time to embrace the unknown. Try a new sport, go outside, ride that scary rollercoaster you’ve always wanted to – step out of your comfort zone.
2. Let go of everyone’s opinion of you.
News flash: no matter how hard you try to get them out of your life, there are always going to be people who will try to “correct” the way you live. However, there is no universally correct way to live a life that is solely your own. Everyone has different goals and views as to what happiness is. Yes, people will judge you. People will try to change you. But if you allow for that to alter your path, you’re going to end up living someone else’s life. Which is why starting now, let go of everything people say about you. Wear what you want, say what you want, do what you want.
3. Let go of your opinion of everyone else’s life.
Face it: no one has a perfect life. You see perfectly curated Instagram feeds and snippets of someone’s travels on Facebook, but these are merely handpicked reflections of their lives to make you believe they’re “living the life”. Truth is, you never truly see someone in these situations. In this age, is is important to remind ourselves that those we compare our lives to are capable of doing the exact same things as we do, no matter how ordinary these may be.
4. Let go of your infatuation with waiting.
It’s so easy to get caught up in waiting for the things we want in life to just happen. We wait for a promotion, the first text, or the easy way out. It’s time to stop waiting for our lives to become what we want them to be, and it’s time to start making them what we want them to be. We all have the potential within us; it is pinned and blooming between our palms and coursing through our veins. If we meet our visions with the same level of effort, we cannot fail at making even the craziest dream a reality.
5. Let go of your tendency of favoring being cool over connected.
In a world that seeks connection, we oddly avoid eye contact. We time our text messages/responses in order to protect ourselves from seeming too eager or interested, and we hold our feelings back because we don’t want to seem overly emotional or unreasonable. Remember – it is okay to be emotional and confidently tell someone that you enjoy their company. There is nothing wrong with vulnerability, as it only means you’re human. Vulnerability is what creates depth within our relationships, and that is ultimately what unifies us.
6. Let go of a love that won’t love you back.
Love is quite possibly the only thing that can both build and break a human being, and that’s what makes moving on difficult. Remind yourself that is often the highlights that leave you longing for the past, the beautiful moments, the building blocks of the relationship. But there were also the things that caused it to end in the first place. There are so many breathtaking people in the world. Open yourself up to them, to the kind of love you deserve.
7. Let go of what you tolerate.
It’s simple – life is not to be tolerated or endured, it’s meant to be enjoyed. If there is something in your life that you want to change, you have all the power in the world to do so. You do NOT have to keep toxic people in your circle or “put up” with any aspect of your life. There is courage to be found within the hearts of those who refuse to simply stomach their life and those who pledge to confront what makes them unhappy. Focus on the things that genuinely make you happy and make you remember what life is truly about.
8. Let go of the idea that it’s too late.
Remember that it is never too late to change your life. (That sounded really dramatic, haha.) We often forget that we aren’t bound by our past. We don’t have to be who we were a year ago. We can want different things and we can seek different horizons. We have to believe that we are never too old, never too jaded, and never too broken to take our first steps towards change. It is never too late to become the person you always hoped you could be. We wake up every single day with the ability to start fresh – it is never too late to do so.
There we go, 8 things I really need to let go of (8 because its my lucky number!). I wrote this post because I needed a constant reminder of these things, and, well, maybe one of you reading this post can get advice from this, too. Have a lovely week, everyone!